How to trust women after being married to a Borderline Personality?

I am in no hurry and may never care to get serious with anyone again after a 13 year marriage to a Borderline Personality Disorder wife. She could be a soccer mom (though depressed), and in the right environment, a totally impulsive unprotected sex whore. She let our children and myself down. I have been a doting husband to her depression and she and marriage counselors (2) had her sent out for psychiatric evaluation and she was finally diagnosed as BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). I justthought she was a difficult wife with her mood swings and felt she had right to be depressed with a mother with MS, but she had no cpoing skills and pulled out her eyelashes and cheated to deal with her abandonment issues and hidden childhood trauma. She has Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) as a comorbid disorder. It's like a Major in BPD and a Minor in AvPD, so communication from her was not forthcoming. But she could go form tears to answering the doorbell with a fresh face and NO ONE could believe that she led a dual life. I was totally in the dark for 13 years. I have been a trusting person and love to see the good in people. But now, I don't trust any female face that is single that is over the age of 35. They either have the same trust baggage as I feel, or they have some kind of Personality Disorder lurking I fear. Stats show that a huge number of people on dating sites have some sort of identity disturbance, or personality disorder or have been abused - not that I would date using online sites. I am also independent and don't need to have someone, but I am of good character and have many solid relationships with good souls and excel in the workplace and take every form of education that I can to do best in work-life. I am a purpose driven person (not in terms of the book) and I felt too much pity for my wife to see anything out of order. Who wuld think an emotional cripple could be such an undermining and destructive person to her family. It was like someone in a wheelchair faking it and running into the night and wreaking havoc. I only found out this year and have quickly divorced her and have the kids through the week and she has them on the weekends. There is a genetic component to BPD, her mother had it, so I intend to offset the nurturing part to hopefully have our children grow up sane. BPD is considered a severe mental illness. It is considered a lifelong disorder and it is part of the Axis of diseases or disorders like schizophrenia and mental retardation currently...again, meaning simply that it is life long. I divorced her becuase the data is not good as of 2011 that they improve (not be cured) at a very slow rate. 3-7-10 years to have improvement and the best you can hope for is someone that is emotionally incapable of loving you as much you put forth, being truly remorseful and alwasy having a secretive self-serving element that does not fear consequences in a healthy way. I lived with that wrapped up in a stealthy spy-like concealment for 20 years. we dated 7 years before marriage, so most of my life was vested in this person. Trust with other women will be very hard to come by. I am not where near indulging in relationships or commitments. I am content with my children for the time being, but I am very capable of dating and can get dates no problem. I am just afraid of who that other person really is. BPDs are impossible to spot until it is too late. Thare are various kinds of BPDs, mine was a slow-bake variety. Some reveal themselves on the first date, others wear a misrepresentative mask over their lack of identity...and they can have a few secret identities. Any advice?