Saturday, July 16, 2011
How to deal with a verbally abusive father?
Okay, so I have a verbally abusive father. I don't really know where to start. He's a Catholic man that a lot of people trust because of that, but he always tries to make me feel bad and guilty about EVERYTHING, even if I don't do anything. He also has major anger issues. He'll blow up at me about anything and curse at me and call me some very harsh names for no reason. One time it was late at night and he was playing his electric guitar which was just across the hall from my room so I asked him nicely if he could stop. He didn't, so I waited a few minutes and just asked him a little louder. He came into my room, said I was stupid and dumb and ripped the sheets off my bed and threatened to hit me. I said if he did that that I'd call the police, and he just laughed. Another example of his anger issues is that he will always curse at the TV if a sports team he likes loses or makes a bad play or if the umpire/ref makes a bad call. My dad's a very degrading man in general. He'll call me names, mock me, say I have no friends (and I definitely do), and make fun of me and call me fat. When he said that, I used to be self-concious but I've come to terms that I'm definitely not. I'm 5'4 and 110 pounds which is not overweight. But he just needs something to yell at me about. My mom doesn't know how to stand up to him, and it makes me sad. She and I used to be close and now I just feel like I can't trust her either. This whole thing might sound petty and I'm typing it while pretty angry myself, but I just feel like nobody really gets it. Nobody really understands. My dad would never admit that he has a problem and go to counseling, but I do because it's started to affect me mentally. I've read things online about how having abusive parents can really negatively affect you later on, and I don't want that to happen even though it's already started. I have trust and abandonment issues, and I have full blown panic attacks occassionally. What can I do about this? I can't move out because I'm only 14, nearly 15... and don't say that I don't know what I'm talking about here. Because I think I do. I know deep down that I don't deserve to be treated like this and I want it to stop. Thanks to anybody that actually read all of this... answers would be appreciated.
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