Full Borderline Personality or just traits?

I have suffered with anxiety related issues such as slight ocd thinking, and panic attacks for years. I am also prone to having a horrible temper. But usually only towards significant others who have taken advantage of me to some degree.(Like finding out I was lied to or something like that etc.) When I first met my husband I developed trust issues with him because he was kind of the "check out hot girls" type. We have had horrible physical fights due to things of this nature. And things like lies. I did come from a very stagnant and argumentative family and did suffer from that I am sure. Being as I am prone to the volatile temper though it worries me of the possibility of BPD. I am 26 and have NO history of harming myself, risky sexual behaviors, long bouts of depression. (except the temper). I do analyze myself constantly which is due to the fact that I have obsessive thinking patterns and so research every facet of my personality so I know that BPD sufferers are highly diagnosed by that. I do fear abandonment from my husband at times and I know that having that fear is also a trait of the disorder. I am not struck with bouts of depression on a normal basis and am usually full of positive energy. I don't think of myself in terms of being "good or evil" but merely a flawed human being. Is it possible to have the rage and fear of being left without being BP? I have overwhelmed my senses with this worry for days now.